Sigh. This has just been one of those years… We started it off with the best of intentions and were thwarted by things (mostly) out of our control. I can tell you that I have felt like a miner with a dull spoon, scraping away at the same rock with little results, waiting for for that piece of gold to fall to my feet. I can also tell you that I have lost my enthusiasm along the way.
This last week, we have had to reassess our situation here and contemplate which way is the best to go. It is never easy to let go of your dreams and admit defeat. It is not easy for us to make the call, load up all of our four legged critters and say goodbye. And the impact of our decision has left us feeling…well defeated.
We could use a little wind in our sails to help us push past these waters right now. Every night, as we lay on the couch and wrap our arms around each other, I can’t ignore the heaviness in our hearts, and it feels a little too much like empty comfort.
Everything I read of yours shows strength and resilience. On to your next adventure and all your future dreams! I look forward to reading about your journey for years to come.
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Awwh so sweet of you Clare! Thanks so much!!
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You are welcome. Have a peaceful and lovely week. Clare
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You too ☺
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Kipling, beloved Rudyard said; If you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two “Impostors” just the same.”
Well, you know how the poem ends.
But the point is that we, for the most part, are pathetic puppets. We dance to the music. We go up for the exhilarating and down for the downs.
Both are impostors.
Equanimity is the trick.
Expend equal emotion on both those tricksters.
Those in your house rely on you, hold a candle to you (yourself). Light the way, I know you can. Stand firm.
Dance not to the music of the would be puppeteers.
I have great faith in you lady.
Much love; MAO
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Thank you Miguel for your support. I appreciate the words of wisdom you have left me. Thanksgiving here in Canada, so I am counting my blessings. Sending you good wishes to you ☺
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Thank you for the good wishes. And those thoughts were roughly hewn (quick) so I apologies for the rough and unknowing edges, but at least, though late, I endeavored to answer the call.
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No need to apologize, ever, with me Miguel. Ever. There is no need for that with me. I will accept you for what you are. And the way you perceived your words was not the way I perceived them. I did not find them rough, I found them uplifting.
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Great
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So many hugs I am sending you all right now.
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I do not how my replies show up for you but thanks for the chat today. Your concern means a lot to to me Georgie. Make sure to give a big squeezy hug to all of the kids. Happy Thanksgiving. Lots of love to you all ☺
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Soon the breeze will blow…don’t lose heart.
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It is gentler all ready Anand. Thank you ☺
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You are welcome 😀
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I’m so sorry it’s been a defeating year for you. I’m thinking about you, Kelly, and the only way to go when you’re at the bottom is up, so keep an eye out for that light!! I hope things start to get better. *Hugs*
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Thank Lydia! It means a lot! And things are better all ready ☺
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I’m so happy to hear it!! Keep looking for the good in things. 🙂
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It’s beautiful writing indeed.
Love and light ❤
Anand 🙂
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Thank you so much Anand, it means a lot to me to hear you say so☺
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Thanks for sharing this personal account.
I don’t know how your journey of life has been so far and whether you are on any kind of spiritual path. But from the title of your blog ( it’s about honesty and the inner voice) I conclude that you are on some kind of journey to give your inner honest voice more space. That sounds like a spiritual journey.
On this journey to our inner honest voice, there is a period where the former false persona msut be let go of. That hurts and feels like defeat, especially if this former persona had only the best intentions.
I wrote about this in my Dark Night of The Soul blog post. The trajectory of the universe is to make us recognize the true inner voice and guide us home. And in order to achieve that, life sometimes purposefully deconstructs our former sense of self.
And that does not feel awesome at all. Once the anger about the deconstruction of the former sense of self is gone, it feels more like flatness and depression. Like nothing matters. Like “what is the point of all this?” . Like “What is my purpose in life anyway if I cannot be my former self with the very best of intentions anymore?”
This is not a place to stay. It is a place to pass through. Just like we may have to pass through a desert to drive from A to B.
Hang in there. Your cup is being emptied. Then it can be filled again.
Best wishes for your journey,
Karin
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Your post gave me some insight into just that Karin. Sorry I couldn’t post my comment there (it seems to not appear until after I follow). After reading, and re-reading ‘The Phases of the Journey’ I began to realize a few things. And your comment here has just solidified my thoughts. Mainly, it is time for a change! It has not been the first metamorphosis, and I am sure it won’t be the last. But I feel there is a direction that my soul needs to take. And yes, it is attached to something, not material, physical and spiritual (I hope). So thank you for writing that post. I look forward to following you on your journey and will be sure to peruse your site more later today. ☺
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Thanks for your reply. I am glad to hear that my post resonated with you.
Regarding not being able to comment on my blog, I have checked my ‘pending’ and ‘spam’ folder of comments. There is no comment in there.
Anyone can comment on my blog, even if they are not following. So, in case you wrote a comment, I’m sorry but I don’t know where it has gone.
I am looking forward to your posts about your journey.
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Oh, that awful defeated feeling. I’m so sorry you’re in that space. It’s so hard to give up on a dream. Let us know how things are going, would you? I’m rooting for you.
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Better today all ready ☺ Thank you!
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So glad to hear that!
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Thanks. How are you and your sleeping habits?
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Well, I finally got sick because of all the lack of sleep, so now my sleep is a bit better because my body just shut right down. It’s just a bad head cold with a bit of a cough, so I am all Tylenoled up and sleeping with my arm curled around a box of tissues. Lots of waking up to blow my nose and honk and snort, but then back into sleep. So yay for being sick, haha! Thank you for asking. 🙂
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At least you will be forced to get the rest you need :(. Hope you feel better soon ☺
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The sun always rises tomorrow! Tomorrow will be a better day. *Hug *Hug.
Be well! 🙂 ❤
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Thank you!!!☺😊☺😊
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You’re welcome. 🙂 Have a blessed week ahead! 🙂
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And all of the best to you too!
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Thank you. 😉
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all good things come to those who wait…hang in there….sending you good energy….kat
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Thank you!!!! ☺😊😀
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Not sure what’s up, but keep on keepin on. It’s all we can do. Things come in waves, ya know?
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Thank you SOB. And I do know. I think I may have even made a comment last year at how quiet our lives were 😉 Just gotta ride it out, it isn’t our first and won’t be our last, just had to get it out of my system. Thanks for reading/listening/being here, it means a lot ☺
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I truly hope things improve soon. 🙂
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Thank you! I am sure they will, looking better even this evening ☺
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I am sorry! Things will turn around! hugs and much love to you!!
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Awwwh thank so much Lynn! *hugs*
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hope things are better!:)
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Better today all ready Lynn! Thanks so much!
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🙂
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Waves of tiredness comes through in you words, but, this too shall pass and you will regain your spirit.
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Thank you Jacqueline ☺ I found great comfort in your words ☺
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You are welcome my dear. Do have a good day 🙂
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It will be ok! I promise you! 2014 was our year of defeat but it got better from there. Hugs!!!
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Thanks Brooke! I appreciate it, greatly, and it does help to know that you have been down this road too so thank you for that too ☺
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*hugs*
Hang in there, everything must run its course before it passes..
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Thanks J mama ☺ Just feels better to write about it, helps me to let it go ☺
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